2011年05月19日
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F JzjS; complains constantly about my style of parenting. "You’re always saying 'No'," they complain, as I tell them they can’t have yet more mayonnaise on their dinner。像大多数孩子们一样,我自己的孩子也一直抱怨我对他们的养育方式。晚饭时当我告诉他们不能再吃蛋黄酱的时侯,他们抱怨说"你总是说'不'。"
-l\@50,D "It’s bad for you," I say. "So, no, you can’t."我说:"再吃对你们的健康不好,不,你们不能再吃了。"
t3M/ThIE "You say no to everything,"says Leonard, aged eight。八岁的Leonard说:"你对任何事情都说不。"
,Xn%-OT He and his younger siblings
ESO(~X+ — Jerry, six, and Ottoline, three — then list everything I have said ‘No’ to since they got home from school. Sweets, playing outside with their uniform on, biscuits, getting stuff out from drawer, painting …他和弟弟妹妹们——6岁的Jerry和3岁的Ottoline列了一张清单,上面写着他们从学校
回家后我说的所有的"不"。糖果、在外面穿着校服玩、饼干、从抽屉里拿东西、画画……
IQM!dC I’ve always considered myself a pretty easy-going parent, and yet here they are telling me I’m a nay-saying harridan。我一直认为我是一个脾气很好的妈妈,但是他们竟然说我是一个总说"不"的老巫婆。
Cxh9rUe. According to the currently fashionable idea of ‘free parenting’, though, what I should be saying is ‘Yes’。然而根据最近流行的"亲子养育"观点,我应该说"是"。
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y?rsfIth` interesting to me because I recently decided to try an experiment. In the style of ‘free parenting’, I would say yes to everything my children wanted for an entire week — and see what happened。因为最近我想做一个实验,所以这就对我来说特别有趣。根据"亲子养育"的方式,在整整一个星期内,我要对我的孩子的要求通通说"是",然后看看效果如何。
s#Le`pGoW The only rules were not to let the children know what I’d decided to do, and to ensure that I alerted them to the consequences of their actions, so they could make their own well-informed choices。唯一的规则是不让孩子知道我在做什么,并且确保已经对他们的行为做出了提醒,然后让他们做出自己的选择。
Ev()2 80 But what if they wanted to swing on the curtains and to paint the walls red? What if my teenage son, 14-year-old Raymond, wanted to bring girls home every night and smoke? What would I say then?但是如果他们想要在窗帘上"荡秋千",或者想要把墙全涂成红色呢?倘若我14岁的儿子Raymond晚上想要带女孩子们回家或者吸烟呢?那么我该说什么呢?
%$cwbh-{{ There was only one way to find out …只有一种方法可以知道……
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